Friday, July 13, 2018

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Thursday, July 12, 2018

To My Friends at Bear Valley Church

July 12, 2018

To my friends at Bear Valley Church:

As we approach the upcoming "vision chat" meetings I want to remind you or maybe inform you for the first time of the vision and values that have made BVC the unique place that it is. The direction our church is being pushed at this time is a 180-degree flip from that.

The reason I bring this to a public forum is that many who feel the same way as are being intimidated into silence and many are quietly leaving.

Click on the link below to read the letter I sent to the deacons of Bear Valley Church related to concerns that I and many others have.

If you share my sentiments then I would encourage you to share this post and to speak your mind to the pastors and deacons. Hopefully things can be turned around.

With a heavy heart,

Philip Faustin

Dear Deacons of Bear Valley Church

Sunday, June 17, 2018

A letter to my children on Father’s Day 2018

In some ways, Father’s Day gets harder as the years go by. Many years ago, I viewed myself as a very good father; not perfect but I knew what I was doing.

Well, many years have passed and I can now see many of the glaring mistakes I have made. I have learned many things in these later years that I wish I knew 20 or 30 years ago. A lot of it comes through podcasts I am listening to and some through books. The things I should have done or not done seem so clear and in some ways so easy to implement. Probably not completely true but things could have been very different in how I disciplined, led and connected. My relationship with each of you could have been a lot better.

I thank you for being understanding and forgiving.

Through the years, there have been some conversations between some of us about these things. Even when that has happened, I know it has not been enough. There are still many conversations that need to be had.

I want to invite those to happen. I know it can be hard. I know I have hurt each of you in different ways, probably mostly in ways I am still oblivious to. It is those things that keep us from experiencing the relationship that we could have.

There are things that are easy to blurt out in a moment of anger but hard to say otherwise. I want to hear those things even if it does take anger to say them. I need that and so do you. There are questions you have that are hard to ask. I want to hear them.

I know this is not an easy process and will not happen quickly. Many years have passed in making mistakes and it will take many to work toward healing. I hope we can travel that path together.

I love each of you,


Monday, April 2, 2018

On Pills and Needles by Rick Van Warner - A Review

Another binge read.

Had to force myself to put it down Friday night, read enough Saturday to almost give myself nightmares that night and finished it Sunday after Easter festivities.

So much is in the news these days about opioid addiction but I had no idea what I would learn by reading this book.

The nightmare: thinking about how easy it is for a young person to become addicted, how many die from overdose daily, and how hard it is to get off opioids  Of course the same is true for many older people but reading a father’s story of his young sons horrible journey in addiction made me think about my own precious children. It could have easily been one of them.

It starts with the drug makers and the money to be made. They promised a drug that was non-addictive but the billions they made was because it was so addictive. The politicians who could have curbed the problem before it careened out of control were bought off by the companies.

The recovery industry many times is part of the problem as well. As long as you have money upfront or good insurance, they will “help” but in so many cases they just care about making money off suffering individuals and families and in most cases don’t provide lasting aid.

The story of the family in this book isn’t sanitized. Sure it would be easy to tell a story about the teenage addict but what fills in the gaps is what was going on with the other family members. At this point the marriage has survived but that wasn’t always assured. Husband and wife constantly fighting, sometimes due to their own issues, sometimes because of the stress of the whole thing, sometimes vehemently disagreeing about the course of treatment. Siblings impacted. Debt incurred in the six figures from one treatment center after another, multiple relapses, vowing no more help, giving in again and providing help. Behavior contracts signed and soon broken. Child allowed in the home again and soon forced to leave. A father having to face his own issues. Heartache by the ton.

Questions were raised why some addicts can go through a program or not go through a program and then never use again. Encouragement and hope came and soon after was dashed. Lessons were learned about what their son really needed. As I turned each page I wondered what would come next. Would their son survive? Would the story end with relapse and death?

If you want to know the conclusion then you will have to read it yourself. But that is not all you will find out. In the end you too will understand this problem in a whole new way.

I hope this book becomes a bestseller. I hope we can learn more about this horrible addiction and the poor souls held in its grasp.

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