Compulsion

Compulsion: an irrational motive for performing trivial or repetitive actions against your will.

I don't think any of us are completely free of compulsive behavior or behaviors. The first step to healing is recognizing and acknowledging these things that we are pretty much blind to.

Little clues can lead us towards honest introspection. Greater benefit comes when we open up to a trusted person, one who recognizes their own brokenness (a wounded healer). Optimal is when the person has recovered from the same compulsion.

Fear paralyzes us. We mistakenly think no one else would understand let alone share our defects of character. Shame from past bad experiences of opening up to a dangerous person can also make it more difficult.

Look for someone with a limp.

"Never trust a man who has not had a bone-jarring encounter with his own depravity."
~Nate Larkin